lets share: Guest Post by Newly Wed Sunita!

Today we have the lovely newly wed Sunita who is sharing her really sweet story of how she fell in love and married her friend!

Here it goes in Sunita's words :)

" Om Paramar Mainamar ". 

Snehil and I have known each other for almost 7.4 years now. As the lines from the movie "When Harry met Sally" goes - When we realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible. The moment we realized that we wanted to spend the rest of our life's together, we talked to  our parents and the next thing we know, the wedding date was set. 

We got married this December( 11th Dec, 2009 - to be precise). And the ride so far has being great. The number of fights have gone down majorly, the love has tripled and the friendship part is still intact  (like the  fevicol ka jhod).

The story of how the girl met the boy or should i say how we met each other :) The story is a typical boy meets girl, they fall in love and get married and they live happily ever after. We met in the second semester of our engineering, my very good friend(Surbhi Kath) played cupid and hooked us together.

The romantic or should I say the ' not so romantic' proposal

WARNING : THERE ARE NO MOON LIT NIGHTS OR CANDLE NIGHT INVOLVED IN THIS STORY.

The better half always sat right behind me in the lectures and we passed chits to talk to each other. During one of these chits passing sessions, he told me about a this girl that he liked in the college, and was afraid of proposing her. He even told him that the girl's name started with 'S', but me being a dumb, didn't take a single hint.  

And one fine evening, as we were sitting in the college campus and chatting (sitting on a bench near the covered drains), the boy says "I love you" and I looked up and in a confused state say "Sorry", the boy says "I love you" again and just then his good friend pops up from nowhere and forces and takes us to the college canteen for a cup of coffee. 10 mins later, I head for the college bus with butterflies in my stomach. That evening the boy inquisitively calls to know the current status – 

a) MORE THAN FRIENDS OR b) JUST FRIENDS and I reply ‘uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh’. 

The next day, gathered guts, did about 0.5 pushups and  confessed my love for him. What’s the ‘not so romantic’ part  in the whole story – the place what else. I always pull his leg for this. I mean who proposes his then girlfriend and now wife on a bench near the drains. Ewwwww.

But honestly, at the end of the day what matters is the love you confess for each other and not the place or the setting ( The line doesn’t hold true if the proposal was done on a private yacht or on a beach).

What's the best thing that i like about 'the better half' is that he is my best friend. There are few things more rejuvenating than sharing a belly bursting laugh with him. He is being my best pal since college and I intend to keep it that way.  I  wish and hope and pray  that the friendship part doesn’t fade with the years.

In the end : What have you learned so far in the 7.4 years of being together, you really can't change anything or anybody in a relationship. So you either work around that or you accept it. For us this relationship has never being  about compromises, its about acceptance. Acceptance of each other minus the conditions. We both hope that the coming years brings us all the exquisite excitements a marriage should bring, and may life also grant us patience, tolerance, and understanding.

PS : " Om Paramar Mainamar " means we dedicate our union to a greater source.

PPS  : Love you SNEHIL SHARMA because you are the only person in the world, I can be myself with. And because you are the only person(after my ma & sushi) who knows me with all my flaws and still loves me

truly, madly and deeply...

Now isn't that really sweet? I do agree with Sunita that it is really important to accept the other without conditions for a happy marriage...but it is so darn difficult to apply isn't it?

Thank you Sunita for sharing your story with me here...it feels great to share :)